tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post2162585122429826972..comments2023-11-14T00:05:35.172-05:00Comments on One of Life's Little Surprises: "He's Still In There!"Carolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-89349426390584130992019-03-01T20:57:54.099-05:002019-03-01T20:57:54.099-05:00I’m finally back online after about a month. The w...I’m finally back online after about a month. The war between Yahoo and Google ended. Almighty Google finally let me into my own two blogs. A miracle, as it were.<br />I'd like to tell you all the up and downs I've had dealing with Barb demetia Stage6 and a Valentine dance after lunch at memorycare in Rochester Cottagewood, the fight Ive fought over dumb lawyer rules at both Mayo Clinic and Memory Care. I may write a best seller on that last subject. If interested I can be emailed at raypothoff@centurytel.net<br /><br />troutbirderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087811292280881959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-84894776035601108362019-02-01T10:07:05.965-05:002019-02-01T10:07:05.965-05:00Oh my goodness. Thanks for the update Ray. This is...Oh my goodness. Thanks for the update Ray. This is always such a challenging time in the journey of dementia, both for the caregiver and for the person afflicted with this cruel disease. <br /><br />I'll be thinking of you and Barb as you transition down this path, hoping you can both find your way to peace and contentment. <br /><br />CaroleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-61795456892249966232019-01-31T18:39:17.097-05:002019-01-31T18:39:17.097-05:00Be well. My wife Barb is now out of the "lock...Be well. My wife Barb is now out of the "lock Up" at St. Mary<br />'s in Rochester Minnesota after three weeks their Today was off to Memory Care. A new stage of life for both of us. Toutbirder (Ray) Still reviewing books on the old blog...:)troutbirderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087811292280881959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-87825065533771351562019-01-22T16:47:01.696-05:002019-01-22T16:47:01.696-05:00Thanks for your thoughtful comment Jude. I’m clear...Thanks for your thoughtful comment Jude. I’m clearer on the issues now. Being able to write about it, talk to Dr M. and hearing from my kind readers has helped to bring better clarity.<br /><br />CaroleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-73957732938729080122019-01-22T13:32:53.496-05:002019-01-22T13:32:53.496-05:00Dying due to an untreated UTI - that seems harsh. ...Dying due to an untreated UTI - that seems harsh. Recently, a dear former colleague passed away due to infected pressure sores that formed as a result of nursing neglect, and that didn’t heal because he was a diabetic. It was an extremely painful death. It made me angry and sad to hear of it. <br /><br />Every one of us is going to die eventually, but one hopes for a death without suffering, and that holds off as long as the person is still enjoying life.<br /><br />JudeDr Sock https://www.blogger.com/profile/13378594360241846301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-56560393056064797012019-01-13T07:56:15.803-05:002019-01-13T07:56:15.803-05:00Thanks Barbara. I’ll try that. As you can see from...Thanks Barbara. I’ll try that. As you can see from my above comments, the problem seems intermittent.Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-2607647435887224992019-01-12T21:25:21.526-05:002019-01-12T21:25:21.526-05:00Have you checked Google+ Comments. Blogger.com th...Have you checked Google+ Comments. Blogger.com then Settings, then Posts, Comments and Sharing, then near bottom of choices - Use Google+ Comments - change drop down to No. I've heard somewhere that can cause a problem.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16894294588507668479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-59272438105538650152019-01-12T06:28:10.877-05:002019-01-12T06:28:10.877-05:00Hi Carol. Good to hear from you too. Life seems so...Hi Carol. Good to hear from you too. Life seems so much more settled compared to two years ago. I sometimes look back to when Jim was still at home and wonder how we both survived that difficult time. But we did, and the sweetness of our daily visits sustains me.Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-7565116688832387932019-01-11T23:48:41.113-05:002019-01-11T23:48:41.113-05:00I've been thinking of you off and on for the p...I've been thinking of you off and on for the past week, feeling that it had been some time since we last heard from you. So VERY glad to hear that life continues on for you and Jim. Continued blessings to you both. How wonderful that he's still there with you, even though he can't always communicate in words. His spirit is still alive and present. Hugs...Tehachaphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12973382680508334105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-47257824306004090912019-01-11T17:17:43.136-05:002019-01-11T17:17:43.136-05:00I’m glad the holidays are behind us. I didn’t writ...I’m glad the holidays are behind us. I didn’t write about it, but the celebrations and parties on the memory care unit were lovely. Always bittersweet though, as things have changed so much for us. I look forward to his birthday, a nice low key celebration. <br /><br />Thanks for stopping by D.<br /><br />Carole Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-906833917369294902019-01-11T16:37:24.014-05:002019-01-11T16:37:24.014-05:00Hello! Glad to hear that things are somewhat stab...Hello! Glad to hear that things are somewhat stable. Your planned birthday celebration will, I’m sure, be delightful. It’s good that you have a good support network at the facility. Especially glad to hear that he is “still in there”. All the best to you and Jim, D(javanut021–I am also having comment issues)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-51828614423094780452019-01-11T09:56:25.474-05:002019-01-11T09:56:25.474-05:00Such a thoughtful comment. And as I sit here, I do...Such a thoughtful comment. And as I sit here, I don’t know what I would want if the situation were reversed. More to ponder...<br /><br />Carole Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-74521905677275004222019-01-11T09:52:19.141-05:002019-01-11T09:52:19.141-05:00Thanks for your perspective Tom. It rings true to ...Thanks for your perspective Tom. It rings true to me. It helps me to hear someone’s voice other than my own.<br />We got about 8 inches of snow yesterday. But today the roads are clear, thanks to the plows and the sanders. 11 degrees though; time for the long down coat.<br /><br />CaroleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-61043801872412950822019-01-11T09:45:56.228-05:002019-01-11T09:45:56.228-05:00Thanks for your encouragement DJan. I hope you are...Thanks for your encouragement DJan. I hope you are right, that I would make the right decision. It’s so hard because I want to do the right thing for Jim, but I know that my thoughts are muddied by my own feelings and needs.<br /><br />Glad I’m not the only one with problems with blogger comments. As you can see above, it allowed me to comment to dkzody using my sign-in, but not to you!<br /><br />CaroleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-12381125389973238102019-01-11T08:46:25.406-05:002019-01-11T08:46:25.406-05:00That would be a tough call. Three things come to m...That would be a tough call. Three things come to mind. 1) What if any, discussions on these types of occurrences you had in the past and what were his wishes then. 2) the inclination to keep them alive for your needs and 3) and imagining what you would want if it was you. <br />Each individual, each circumstance is a choice and we all do what we think is best.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987527540895782339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-69863654387384640212019-01-11T08:46:08.146-05:002019-01-11T08:46:08.146-05:00Who am I to offer any kind of advice or suggestion...Who am I to offer any kind of advice or suggestion? Yet it still seems to me that life is worth living as long as you need him, can't wait to see him and he still knows you and loves you. But ... don't drive in the snowstorm! Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-73598772060386371382019-01-11T08:33:37.471-05:002019-01-11T08:33:37.471-05:00I am always happy to see you show up in my mailbox...I am always happy to see you show up in my mailbox. I've wondered how Jim is, how you are, and now I know you are both doing just fine. I was again reminded from your post about how young Jim was when he developed symptoms. When I think about how much better everything is for you now, I know if something similar to Jean's situation were to happen to Jim, you would make the right choice. For now, it's not an issue. And you are among many of my friends who are having problems with Blogspot and comments. I allow anonymous comments just for them. I hope they fix it! DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-65224335784129698232019-01-10T20:00:45.794-05:002019-01-10T20:00:45.794-05:00Yes! It meant so much to me. I saw her transition ...Yes! It meant so much to me. I saw her transition from not wanting to see a photo of him to saying she wanted to visit him. So grateful. <br /><br />When someone chooses not to visit, or to not ask about him, it feels like he is already dead to them. Harsh words, but that is what it feels like.Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-66962137847414995062019-01-10T19:49:36.467-05:002019-01-10T19:49:36.467-05:00I'm glad your sister came to visit. Nice to ha...I'm glad your sister came to visit. Nice to have family support.dkzodyhttp://dkzody.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com