tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post7964565140400177033..comments2023-11-14T00:05:35.172-05:00Comments on One of Life's Little Surprises: Looking to the FutureCarolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-245636045089930712016-10-08T09:29:54.934-04:002016-10-08T09:29:54.934-04:00Hi DDD. Thanks for your comment. I'll admit, I...Hi DDD. Thanks for your comment. I'll admit, I'm not always feeling real positive. Sometimes I have to readjust my thinking and check my emotions. Sorry to hear about your husband. Sounds like you have some challenges too. Thanks for stopping by, and feel free to come back. This is a great group of folks, and we learn and help each other. Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-36678384543851174402016-10-08T09:16:21.838-04:002016-10-08T09:16:21.838-04:00Each day is a gift how wonderful you said that. Yo...Each day is a gift how wonderful you said that. Your words inspire me to be positive and grateful. <br />Thanks for sharing. You are so caring and patient. My husband is not nearly as bad, and I resent him sometimes. DDDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09039721435518231693noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-21030937736000383392016-10-07T14:00:30.707-04:002016-10-07T14:00:30.707-04:00I agree Gigi. It definitely puts us in a different...I agree Gigi. It definitely puts us in a different situation, now that we (I) need to think about home care for Jim in the future. Fortunately we have a great advisor, and I'm glad I can count on him for his expertise in this area.Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-55883126710404003312016-10-07T11:47:21.476-04:002016-10-07T11:47:21.476-04:00It is good to talk to a financial advisor regardin...It is good to talk to a financial advisor regarding the future, especially when your husband has dementia. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-12498468043327532972016-10-06T18:09:52.615-04:002016-10-06T18:09:52.615-04:00Yes, each day is a gift! I am so aware of that. Th...Yes, each day is a gift! I am so aware of that. Thanks for your kind words Barbara. This journey certainly has its challenges, but I am so grateful for all the help and support I am finding along the way. And that includes, of course, all the kind readers who comment and offer up such kind words of encouragement and support.Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-19392491127728548142016-10-06T16:56:55.908-04:002016-10-06T16:56:55.908-04:00I love the way you are approaching this whole dile...I love the way you are approaching this whole dilemma. You are honest with yourself and those that can help you. <br /><br />Have a wonderful day...it is a gift!b+ (Retire In Style Blog)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05114209481329773753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-60629421358423598552016-10-06T15:20:34.601-04:002016-10-06T15:20:34.601-04:00Thanks Patti. I appreciate your perspective. I'...Thanks Patti. I appreciate your perspective. I'm looking forward to feeling a kinship with others who are in similar situations. You are right; the hints, tips, advice that are shared will be invaluable. Hopefully I'll have a few of my own to share :-)Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-50938207409578725892016-10-06T15:12:09.412-04:002016-10-06T15:12:09.412-04:00That card is a blessing both to you and to anyone ...That card is a blessing both to you and to anyone who may not be understanding.<br />I am so glad you are going to seek out a support group. I have found my Cancer support group invaluable. First it is such a relief to be with others that totally understand where you are. You will feel yourself actually relax, plus the sharing of hints and tips is so worth it. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-86448557887170633982016-10-06T15:11:14.023-04:002016-10-06T15:11:14.023-04:00Thanks for the love DJan. Sending some right back ...Thanks for the love DJan. Sending some right back to you :-)<br /><br />It always feels so good to be writing about this. Sometimes I sit and wonder exactly what I will say, but then the words seem to flow. I know that you experience that as well sometimes on those early Sunday mornings :-)Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-58383552674909146002016-10-06T15:07:13.355-04:002016-10-06T15:07:13.355-04:00Thanks for the encouraging words Tom.Thanks for the encouraging words Tom.Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-24393069267165399512016-10-06T15:06:47.617-04:002016-10-06T15:06:47.617-04:00Thanks for your comment Mary. I'm working my ...Thanks for your comment Mary. I'm working my way through this. I've always believed in self control and taking responsibility for my actions and my emotions. I know it is not as simple as that. And I expect working with a counselor will help me to gain a better perspective.<br /><br />I'm sorry to hear about your husband. You know only too well how hurtful those kind of changes can be. Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-17928068393747264712016-10-06T09:24:39.706-04:002016-10-06T09:24:39.706-04:00Thank you for sharing all this with me. I don'...Thank you for sharing all this with me. I don't know if I will ever be in the same boat, but as part of a couple in our seventies, it's all good information just in case. Plus I really am learning how to go forward in a very difficult situation. Sending you lots of love from here.DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-85071928166273075092016-10-06T08:43:14.037-04:002016-10-06T08:43:14.037-04:00All I can say is that you're doing the right t...All I can say is that you're doing the right things, and I admire your honesty and your courage.Tomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08611148987085476580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-40613403972782049652016-10-06T08:14:23.280-04:002016-10-06T08:14:23.280-04:00It is NOT a personal failing that you take his rem...It is NOT a personal failing that you take his remarks and actions personally. It is because you are a feeling and caring human being. I don't have experience with dementia, but my husband died of brain cancer and it affected his personality in that he said hurtful things and acted irrationally at times. I was also hurt by all this. I really never learned not to take it personally, but I knew I shouldn't. I'm sure a counselor will be of great help to you. Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987527540895782339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-29044586173408332262016-10-06T06:02:16.057-04:002016-10-06T06:02:16.057-04:00Thanks Linda. I'm a planner too! There is comf...Thanks Linda. I'm a planner too! There is comfort in knowing that I am doing all I can to prepare and to provide for the best care possible for Jim. Carolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17237805282007404140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1268654142180590336.post-50936913100194147372016-10-05T21:40:08.445-04:002016-10-05T21:40:08.445-04:00Good job. I'm such a believer in planning for ...Good job. I'm such a believer in planning for the future. So much easier to edit a plan than to create one from scratch. Working on a plan for the future keeps your attention focused on the important. You will never be sorry about the time invested in planning for the future.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586429675286969340noreply@blogger.com