Jim: "When is my birthdate?"
Me :"January 20, 1949"
Jim: "No, when is my birthdate?"
Me: "Your birthdate is January 20, 1949."
Jim: "No...(long pause) I mean....(long pause)"
Me: "You mean how old are you?"
Jim: "Yes! That's what I asked!"
Me: "You are 67."
He struggles with finding the right words. Not always, but sometimes. Sometimes he will say something brilliant! He cannot handle phone conversations that involve any kind of complexity. Yesterday he asked me to call to change the date and time of a Dr. appointment.
He can no longer operate the thermostat, cannot operate our new washer and dryer; the list goes on.
The other day he was struggling with the TV remote and asked for my help. After I helped him he said "My brain! What would I do without you!" But these moments of insight are rare.
The other night we were waiting in a restaurant for our takeout order. He blew me an air-kiss (goofy lovey-dovey thing we do at home). I said "I think the waitress just saw you do that." He said "do what?" I said"blow me an air-kiss". He said" I didn't just do that!" I let it drop, because what is the point. He doesn't remember. Less than 10 seconds ago. So sad.
Since we have been back from FL, I think he actually functions a little better. I have read that it is important to keep everything as consistent as possible. It makes me seriously rethink all our plans to travel. Kind of hoping for a Northern California this fall and London next spring. Just don't know if I have it in me to handle all the stress it will generate for him.
I'm getting good at NOT saying "don't you remember...?" because obviously he doesn't! I also am good at not showing shock when he can't remember his age, phone #, address etc.
He trusts me, and that is everything. He is so appreciative of everything I help him with.
Life is still good, and I am grateful for his love.